By Rebecca Ammon (http://www.RebeccaAmmon.com)
As I walk into the swinger club for an evening of fun I immediately scan the room for people I know. Depending on how long it’s been since I last visited I may see familiar faces and possibly not know anyone. I’ve been in the lifestyle for more than 10 years and I still find myself feeling insecure when approaching someone new. Each visit to a club, each encounter with a new couple is a challenge for everyone. Even the most confident of people may shy away when it comes to that first hello which makes that big question “do you want to sleep with me?” even more difficult.
Breaking the ice, creating that level of comfort that makes everyone at ease isn’t always the easiest thing to do. For that reason alone I must present my favorite swinger event ever that fixes this problem. Swinger Speed Dating is the best, most fun and creative way to get to know a group of people in a no stress, fun manner. Whether you are new to the lifestyle or a seasoned swinger like me, this type of event will teach you a few things about other swingers and how to be more active in the lifestyle.
The event works pretty seamlessly. A group of couples gather together; maybe 20to 25 in all and everyone sits at tables – two couples to a table. When I say go everyone starts to talk. You might wonder what the heck you will say to this couple you have just met. Not everyone has the gift of gab so I have created suggestion cards of questions and conversation starters. While you may have your own set of questions, these are basic things every swinger couple needs to know about another before engaging in any type of further activity. It’s really up to you what you say and how the conversation proceeds.
Next is the time frame. Since you don’t want to spend all night speed dating and not time playing I keep your conversation time to three to five minutes per couple. This amount of time is long enough to know if you want to get to know a couple better and yet short enough to escape a couple you prefer not to know any further.
After you have had a chance to talk to all couples the event ends and the real socializing begins. Swinger Speed Dating opens that door for more conversations. It gives you an introduction to someone you may have not otherwise talked to.
I see couples regularly at the swingers club that sit in the corner booth, hang by the bar and never really interact with others. Maybe you are a little nervous and hoping someone will come speak to you first, but in reality that isn’t always going to happen. The Swinger Speed Dating introduction helps you get out of the corner booth, detach yourself from the safety of your bar stool and become more outgoing. I have already provided you with the basics to start with – the introduction and now it’s up to you to continue the conversation. You definitely need to try Swinger Speed Dating with me!
Read another great article from Rebecca Ammon about Dating: Swinger Style