By Kissin Blue Karen (http://kissinbluekaren.com)
You profile on any dating site is the key to giving a great first impression to any potential couples on a dating site. Your profile is way for couples to meet you online and see more about you. You will want to put your best foot forward for your profile.
Some basics to keep in mind as you are setting up a profile:
- Pick a unique, yet easy to remember user name- A member name is pretty important; it should be unique, since you may want to use the same one for various sites. Keep it simple. Your member name is something you need to remember be able to tell others when you meet them.
- Think about what you want out of the lifestyle and put it into words on you profile. What exactly are you looking for? Do you want to “date” other couples or just meet up for sex? Are you open to single guys? Be honest in your profile and keep it simple.
- Keep your profile current- your experiences may change what you are looking for in a potential play mate, be sure to keep it up to date.
- Keep it simple-Most profiles are about 500 or so words and answer specific questions about a couple. I have seen people get long winded in their profile descriptions and while there may be a background story to tell, save you stories for the date.
- Pick out a few tasteful pictures and add them. Pictures don’t have to show your face and they add so much to a profile. Not only is this a chance for you to show off that sexy pose, it is a chance for potential playmates to see what you look like.
Some Don’ts for setting up a profile:
- Posting a picture of you from 10 years ago. Don’t try to sell anyone online on what you and your partner looked like 4 years and 2 kids ago. That is just being dishonest.
- Saying you are “athletic” when you are clearly not. Don’t be ashamed to say “a little extra padding” if that actually describes you. Athletic means height and weight proportionate, not a person whose BMI is over 30!
- Having unreasonable expectations about privacy. Don’t expect people to approach you when all you have is the picture of an ass or tits for your profile. Exchanging pictures is part of the process; expect to have to show your face in them at some point. Do be wary of picture collectors and people that don’t reciprocate right away. Most swingers we have met respect the need for discretion, but most swingers will not agree to meet anyone without seeing their face.
- Not updating your profile, ever. If your profile says that you are newbies, yet you have 5 certifications, it may be time to update your information.
- Not reading other people’s profiles before trying to make contact. If a profile says “up to age 50” then respect those limits. If a profile says “no single males” and that is what you are, move on. You are more likely to have a chance with someone that is already open to you.
- Having unreasonable expectations about a hook-up. Have a fantasy, but don’t expect strangers to play it out exactly as you fantasize. No hook-up goes exactly as planned. Having unrealistic expectations means you are sure to be disappointed. Case and point: I talked to a girl on twitter not too long ago that went to another state to act out a fantasy gang-bang. The girl’s female friend got sick, some of the guys couldn’t perform and her man got jealous. Think she will want to re-create this night anytime soon? Probably not.
- Thinking a “wave” or a “smile” means a couple wants to hook-up. It doesn’t. Sometimes people are just trying to be friendly, don’t read anything but the obvious there.
- Not being honest about your partner on the profile. Don’t post yourself as couple if you swing separately. Be honest about your partner in you profile. We met a guy just recently that wanted us to pretend we just met him at the club, then talk his girlfriend into swinging. This guy isn’t honest with his own girlfriend, there is no way we could trust him. This is the kind of guy that would “say” he put a condom on, but not really do it. His trustworthiness was already displayed by how he treats his partner. We were tricked into even meeting this guy. Now we always talk to the female by phone before we head out.
If you are stumped on what to say or how to say it read other peoples profiles to get some ideas. Be honest and have fun!
Now that you know how to write the perfect swinger profile, read another great article from Karen about swinger dating sites.